Women Are Nine-Times More Lusty?
Śrīmad Bhāgavatam 3.23.44:
”Having excited that great woman’s desires and enthusiasm to the utmost, he assumed nine separate forms and made love with his beloved for many years, which seemed like a moment to her.”
If this were a movie it would be hard to keep it even to an “R” rating at this point.
OK, the elephant is in the room. Let’s talk about it. This is the purport where Prabhupāda makes the super-world-famous statement, “the sexual appetite of a woman is nine times greater than that of a man.”
We who are Śrīla Prabhupāda’s followers often make a huge mess out of comprehending and explaining his more unusual or unexpected statements, but this is very likely this single most poorly understood and disastrously wrongly explained statement in the history of difficult “Prabhupāda said”s.
It’s just like this, ladies and gentlemen, plain and simple, straight from the bedroom: A man can have an orgasm once. Then he has to wait a while before he can even start intercourse again. Men with good sense control and excellent control of the muscles in their bodies can delay an orgasm for incredibly long times, but once the guy has an orgasm, that’s it, he’s gotta rest. Even the yogis.
Women, on the other hand do not have this limitation. That’s why kāma-śāstras make statements like “women have 9 times more ‘sexual appetite’.” “Appetite” means capacity to eat. Women have “9 times” greater capacity to enjoy sex than men do. Why? on big reason is because they can have multiple orgasms in succession without waiting between them. The expert “sexologists” of ancient India (as Prabhupāda calls them sometimes) describe that in the time it takes a man to have one orgasm and then recover and be ready for the next, a woman can have nine orgasms.
That’s why Kardama divided himself into nine, so he could delight his wife continuously for years. [Though actually, the deeper reason why he divided himself into nine is that there were nine unmarried Prajapati’s and he wanted to have nine daughters each with a unique personality suited to each of the Prajapati’s, to make Brahmā’s mission of populating the universe successful].
It does not mean “women are nine times more lusty.” It means they have “nine times more appetite for sexual pleasure.” Men are more sexually lusty than women. If you don’t believe me take a look at a man’s reproductive organ and compare it to a woman’s. The man’s is hanging out there right out in the open. The woman’s is small and hidden and discreet. The man’s interest in having sex is far greater than the woman’s. But in the act of sex itself, the woman’s capacity to enjoy pleasure is nine times greater than a mans, because it can easily endure nine times as long, and also because the man’s focus is completely localized in the sexual organ itself, but the woman’s experience is spread more throughout the entire body.
If people tried to understand things logically and reasonably instead of using “Prabhupāda said”s to justify their own (useless) preconceived outlooks, everyone in the world would have probably been chanting hari-nām saṅkīrtan by now.