I believe there are two angles on getting rid of low self-esteem: (1) mundane, replacing it with high self-esteem, (2) spiritual, replacing it with humility. In either case I feel it is essential to clearly understand the CAUSE of the low self-esteem. Depending on the exact nature of the cause, the exact flavor of the low esteem will vary, and thus also the exact nature of the treatment.
In the broadest sense, though, we might generalize that of the three modes of nature – clarity, energy, inertia – low self esteem might most often result from blockage to energy and increase of inertia. Therefore a generally good way to combat self esteem is to reduce the mode of inertia – this means to get BETTER sleep, which usually does not mean more sleep. Better rest makes the mode of inertia function usefully. To sleep well one must remove dirtiness, clutter and disorganization from ones living and sleeping environment. One must also injest non-inertial foods (no alcohols, or meats, etc). Then one will sleep much better. Also to sleep better one requires the mode of energy to be at peace. This means that one has to have a sense that one’s activities throughout the day have come to sufficient fruit. So setting small, attainable and satisfying “to do” lists each day, and checking them off… this will set the mode of energy at ease. When the mode of inertia is not dirty and when the mode of energy is fulfilled – one sleeps soundly and this solves 75% of all mental problems, like low self-esteem.
When these modes are balanced nicely as in the above example, the mode of clarity can really step forward and shine, and one can then REALLY solve the low self esteem problem. The mode of clarity allows us to see things as they really are. So when interia and energy are put to good use, clarity steps forward and shows us that our faults and shortcomings are… in PERSPECTIVE… just faults and shortcomings, and not overwhelming negativities.
Consequent with this treatment – which is material in nature – you should also apply a spiritual treatment: which is to focus your heart on the all-attractive and all-enchanting Supreme Personality of Godhead, Sri Krsna. Doing so will show you, gradually, and ever-increasingly, that you have an eternal intimate and significant relationship with that delightful being. This is the ultimate and absolute cure for low self esteem – for one who is intimately related to a being as wonderful and sweet as Sri Krsna can not be worthy of scorn or loathing in any way shape or form.
Focusing the heart upon Sri Krsna is most readily accomplished by nama-sankirtana, which means to sing Krsna’s names in a group of like-minded people. There are other supportive methods such as chanting these names one ones own, and listening to / reading about the glories of Krsna’s form, qualities, and activities.
The most superexcellent mantra for this is:
Hare Krsna, Hare Krsna, Krsna Krsna, Hare Hare
Hare Rama, Hare Rama, Rama Rama, Hare Hare
Krsne matir astu!